Sep 26, 1999
"My hair has been straight since Wednesday when I hot combed it, and my mom still believes my natural hair will break, and I will need Wave Nouveau to manage the hair. I've seen and witnessed the results on my own poor sister, and frankly the stuff ain't worth it. [Sister] would be sooo much happier if she could grow out her natural hair. This [her age] is the stage where she can wear the cutest hair styles, and that can be done with her beautiful Natural hair. I hope that at least b/4 next summer she will give me a chance at [sister's] hair, because surely by then I'll have experience with dealing with her natural hair. I know she'll love it."
Have any of you experienced someone close to you such as a family member completely put down your choice of wearing your hair? Sometimes these comments come from their own personal experiences, but a lot of them really are unwarranted. Such negative comments can make one completely drop everything they believed in and choose to go in a different direction, just because you truly trust the opinions of those closest to you. Reality shows that people don't know everything, and really when they make such comments they're trying to protect you from having to experience anything you don't have to. In this case, it was protecting me from not having to struggle with my hair and not looking like I don't know how to do my hair... because as we all know, the hair on a woman's head is her Crown and Glory. When it's not right, it doesn't matter how beautiful your dress is or how hot your shoes are, you will always look incomplete. Granted it's important to care how your hair looks, sometimes when we're transitioning or trying something new with our hair it's not going to look right all the time! Now, personally looking back at this experience of mine, straightening my own hair as I used to back in '99/2000 was not such a good idea! I was also using an electric hot comb my mom still had from the 70's... you know, the type that makes that "cling" noise every time you run it through your hair? *shivers* So my mom was definitely on to something, even if it didn't come out in a way I would have liked to hear it (that my natural hair will break and that I should get a Jerri curl instead :-/ ). That's the risk you take for trying something new. It's a hit and miss. So before you begin doubting yourself and your choice of hair, remember to stay true to what you want for yourself and have a deep conviction of what you want, therefore when others try to tell you what is good for you or your hair you will be less likely to completely buy into it. Give yourself the chance to experiment and make mistakes! That's apart of the natural hair journey :-) I hope reading through my experiences and the experiences of others will help you to make less mistakes as well. That's the goal of my blog.